Low self -esteem: Symptoms and causes
Low self -esteem: Síntoma y causas La autoestima es un pilar fundamental para tu desarrollo personal y para tu bienestar general. It is your own assessment and esteem, your care, your self-respect. What is healthy self-esteem? It is what makes you bring out the best in you, value you, respect yourself and respect others. It's about feeling capable, valuable, prepared and confident, pero no sentirte mejor que otros. Es la forma en la que yo pienso y siento sobre mismo. Cuando la autoestima está afectada en todas las áreas de tu vida, because you are going through a bad time or in a specific area due to particular situations such as a separation, a traumatic experience, a job frustration, disappointment in love... The assessment you make of yourself is affected and this limits you, It makes you question yourself and makes you feel that you do not have the necessary resources to be able to face certain situations., a que desconfíes de ti. Te genera muchos miedos e inseguridades. Como mejorar y trabajar la autoestima La autoestima es el aprecio y la consideración contigo, everything you tell yourself, what you think about yourself… The set of beliefs you have towards yourself. Everything you think you are, what you think you should be, what you think you are worth, what you think you think about yourself, what you think your capabilities are. Imagine a pyramid with its steps: 6 A U T O E S T I M A 5 A U T O R E S P E T O 4 A U T O A C E P T A C I Ó N 3 A U T O E V A L U A C I Ó N 2 A U T O C O N C E P T O 1 A U T O C O N O C I M I E N T O 1. El Autoconocimiento. Es el peldaño más importante, if you don't know yourself, you can't accept yourself, you can't evaluate yourself, ni amarte. El autoconocimiento está en continua evolución, you never finish knowing yourself. Now you are not the same as you were a few years ago, estás cambiando y evolucionando. Autoconocimiento es conocer tus patrones de comportamiento, values, strengths, weaknesses, qualities, How do you react to certain circumstances?, How do you face adversity?, when you set yourself a challenge, what are your talents, propósitos… 2.Autoconcepto es el concepto de lo que tú crees de ti. Son esas creencias que tienes sobre ti, how you talk to yourself, tu diálogo interno, For example: how bad you do something, how badly you dress, lo mal que te expresas en público y de cómo los demás lo hacen mejor o visten mejor que tú o se desenvuelven mejor que tú delante de los demás El diálogo interno que te vas susurrando de manera silenciosa, but it's going to hurt you a lot. Es donde aparecen esas críticas destructivas que consisten en machacarte por ese error que has cometido, por lo que has dicho o no has dicho… Aquí también hablaríamos de las “etiquetas” que te pones, me refiero a esas palabras que te definen de manera global, I am “clumsy”, “sociable”, "intelligent", “stupid”… if you give yourself a label it is because at some point in your life that word was repeated to you and you finally believed it and repeated it. 3.Autoevaluación para poder tener una evaluación de ti misma/o tienes que conocerte, conocer tanto lo bueno como lo malo. Porque normalmente solo te focalizas en lo malo, Then it may be that the only thing you are going to realize is that you don't like anything about yourself and you are only going to see the bad.. If you don't know yourself, you won't know or be able to evaluate what your talents are., potentials, your strengths and weaknesses, How good or bad you are at something... When you don't like something or you don't know if you like it, the first thing you tell yourself is: "you don't know", "you can't", "You should know this and you don't know it". When you're not good at something, you criticize yourself., pero debes también saber que hay muchas otras cosas que también haces bien y debes tenerlo en cuenta para crecer y valorarte en eso, lo más importante es repetírtelo para interiorizarlo. 4.Autoaceptación Es lograr llegar a una armonía y bienestar con tu cuerpo y manera de ser. En personas que no están contentas dentro de su cuerpo, in others that have some aspect that they do not like, whether physical, emotional, spiritual and are constantly told you must accept yourself, finally what they connect with is frustration, getting worse day by day. If you have the option to change something you don't like, so go ahead, but if there is something that you cannot change because it does not depend on you, then we enter a path of acceptance, to let go of control, I can't do anything with this and I have to live with it. There are things that we cannot change about ourselves, such as height., tener las caderas anchas… No puedo transformar mis características físicas que me vienen dadas por mi genética. Y, therefore, I must accept it, but there are others that you can improve if you work on it. It is important to understand that human beings cannot accept anything that we do not previously understand.. If there is something you don't like about yourself and you can transform it, do it, taking action. go that way, for example if you want to lose weight, look for a way to improve yourself, be with eating habits, better nutrition, exercise…, if you want to do something but, you think : "With my age where am I going?"?, can, hang out with people who have achieved it. Encontramos también la no aceptación del propio físico debido a carencias afectivas, desaprobación y falta de reconocimiento por parte de
What is assertiveness: Examples and techniques
Se dice que la asertividad es una base fundamental de la felicidad ya que está comprobado científicamente que las relaciones sanas y positivas incrementan nuestro nivel de oxitocina(The love hormone). Our personal growth will begin when we begin to sow relationships from respect, Love and empathy. What is assertiveness? La asertividad es una forma de comunicación que consiste en defender tus derechos e ideas, Express your opinions, Emotions, feelings and suggestions honest without falling into aggressiveness or passivity, respecting others, And most importantly respecting yourself. It is the way you have to tell someone that matters to you, que lo que te ha hecho te ha molestado sin callártelo ni atacarlo. Solo cuando adquieras conciencia de la importancia de tus palabras, You can choose each of them carefully before expressing them and achieving a good relationship with your interlocutor, Although it is important to say that there is the possibility that although you act assertively the response of the person with whom you are communicating it is not. Assertive behavior is learned by imitation and reinforcement, So we have been transmitting us as behavior models and as a prize or punishment our parents, maestros, friends, medios de comunicación… Cuando nos comunicamos, We usually be or aggressive in our answers or liabilities. But how are submissive people and aggressive people? El problema central en las personas sumisas y agresivas es su baja autoestima. En la persona sumisa la mayoría de sus interacciones sociales fracasan y se siente mal consigo mismo/a. Han desarrollado un pensamiento limitante y negativo hacia su persona. They usually have recurring thoughts such as: Como vemos en estos ejemplos las personas sumisas no expresan sus opiniones ni deseos personales, Avoid conflicts with others, They spend a lot of energy to achieve the approval of the other, They stop their feelings ( both positive and negative)… Muestran una percepción pobre sobre si misma/o y piensan que los demás son superiores. It puts the wishes, feelings, thoughts of others above their own, canceling your voice and needs, wishes. You need to constantly feel the approval and acceptance of others and hide their true opinion to avoid being criticized(belief that has). Some rational thoughts on the examples exposed above could be: (It is important that the person looks for alternative ideas to their irrational thoughts or irrational beliefs to be more assertive and most importantly feel good and take into account) When we take into account, We take care of ourselves, We are much more capable of understanding, respect others. Las personas agresivas se están defendiendo constantemente de los demás (Hence his low self -esteem). They lead to the field of personal offense the fact that someone thinks differently to them, They usually have a lack of resources when handling in tense situations, and they are dominated by their emotions. They always think they are right and do not admit to being wrong under any circumstances. They feel vulnerable. They understand any situation as a fight in which they must demonstrate their worth and impose their vision on others. Some thoughts are: Negative emotions appear in them; Anxiety, The anger, anger or the feeling of being misunderstood are some of them, In addition to frustration and a strong sense of loss of control. An aggressive person can lose control of himself when he begins to feel that the situation goes out of hand. And not to demonstrate vulnerability, what is necessary from verbally wounding or psychologically to attack them. Always crushes the ideas and rights of the rest, no siente ningún respeto por los pensamientos de los demás Suelen hablar en voz alta, almost always interrupting others and using sarcasm and insults as support. They do not admit an error on the other hand and will try to blame others. The others are always to blame, They never. They are great manipulators and try to dominate and control people to achieve what they want. They have trouble imagining a point of view that is not yours. Aggressive people usually have great affective lack, They move people away and don't want to be with them, They feel misunderstood and only and this increases resentment and anger towards other people. Example of aggressive behaviors: Aggressive people have to understand: por qué sienten que deben defenderse e imponer lo que ellos quieren saber porque se sienten tan vulnerables ante los demás. They must work to improve their self -esteem and acquire new habits to handle tension. It demands a lot of effort, involvement and dedication. Ser asertivo es expresar tus puntos de vista respetando el de los demás. No significa querer llevar siempre la razón, but express your opinions and points of view being these correct or not. We all have the right to be wrong and not to be judged therefore excessively. What is assertiveness for? Assertiveness serves to: How to know if you are an assertive person? First of all say, que el describir a una persona asertiva es un ideal. The vast majority of people cannot act correctly and assertively 100% of the times, pues somos humanos. Siempre podemos cometer errores y dejarnos llevar por las emociones dependiendo de la situación, personal moment we are currently ...) Pero lo importante es poder llegar al máximo a este ideal de persona asertiva. Assertive people are usually characterized by these traits: In case of conflict you can reach an agreement acting assertively, But sometimes, We can find situations in which, As much as we express our thoughts, Emotions with respect and we are open to dialogue yes on the other side do not want to be no possible agreement. Asertividad relacionada con el autoestima La autoestima es la visión que tienes de ti misma, The value you give. Self -esteem will not be higher for being more successful, have a high social or professional range or be more attractive. It has to do with the degree of personal satisfaction, As you speak, te juzgas